Conflicts with schoolchildren

The school life of a child does not consist of only lessons and grades. In many ways, the school is also a place for children to communicate. And this communication is far from always cloudless and friendly. Sometimes conflicts arise between children. And parents should not perceive this as an accomplished tragedy. Conflicts in the team are common and normal.

Parents often make the mistake of coming to school and starting to make complaints to everyone right away about the fact that their child is being offended and no one is protecting. Do not escalate the situation. It is better to first recall your childhood and attitude in the children’s environment to those whose parents "understand" instead of the child on each occasion. Such children at all times remained on the side of the team.

But a normal parent will not be able to protect the child either. Therefore, the first thing to do is sit down and calm down. To discuss the situation with the child, the main thing is to calmly, without blaming himself or his comrades. After all, it is an adult who must remember that both sides are always to blame for the conflict, although it can be to varying degrees.

Analyze the situation: can a child solve it on his own. It is possible that a child should change his behavior. There are impulsive children, flashing up from every incorrectly spoken word, even if it is said and not addressed to them. Such a child must be taught to control his emotions, otherwise at an older age this can turn into even bigger problems.

If the child, on the contrary, cannot repulse the offender, is too constrained and pinched, then the parents will have to do delicate and painstaking work to strengthen his self-esteem. Perhaps it is worthwhile to consult with a school psychologist or class teacher. One protection for the child is not enough. Without adequate self-esteem and the ability to defend their own opinion, a child can not do either at school or in a future adult life.

Actually, the class teacher in any case must be notified of the conflict. Talk to the teacher should be calm, explain your vision of the problem. And do not be surprised that he might have a slightly different version of events. If adults know about the conflict only from the words of their child, then it is entirely possible that they do not know the whole truth. Each person, regardless of age, is inclined to justify himself and blame the other.

Whatever the option for the development of the conflict, it is the parents who must set the child an example of adequate, calm and reasonable behavior. It is possible that parents of conflicting parties will have to meet at the negotiating table more than once. And it will be much better for everyone if the parents are calm and firm in their decisions.