How to learn the gift of persuasion

In disputes there are always losers and proven to be right. For the most part, I want to be second, not first. But to conduct discussions so that they do not turn into swearing, but convey your thoughts to a person correctly, not always easily.

Instruction manual

one

Set a clear goal. Do not think abstractly, but decide what you want to achieve with this conversation. Formulate in advance what you are going to say. The phrases should be short and understandable so that the interlocutor does not lose the thread of your reasoning in the middle of a flowery example.

2

Do not forget who you are talking to. All people are different. Some do not respond to emotional beliefs, while others do not. For example, some follow logic. When talking with such people, you should resort to facts and reliable information, as well as maintain a formal communication style. Emotional people are attached to feelings, but remember, the less you are familiar with a person, the less the arguments acting on him based on your feelings.

3

Keep track of the facts that you provide. Put yourself in the place of your opponent and determine which arguments will beat him in the discussion. Try to present them in the following order: first - strong, then - medium, then - the most powerful counterargument. Weak facts are best avoided. There is an opinion that what was said at the beginning and end cuts into memory well.

4

Respect your adversary. If you show respect for his opinions and beliefs, the interlocutor will not need to defend against you. This will facilitate the persuasion process.

5

Do not belittle yourself. Do not apologize for your opinion. Apologize as little as possible, otherwise you will seem insecure.

6

Start with what unites you. If it’s difficult to come to an agreement, start with what is common between you and your interlocutor, and not with the reason for the disagreement.

7

Listen and understand what is being told to you. Misunderstanding will only prevent you from convincing your opponent. Listen to him, do not interrupt and ask clarifying questions.

eight

Convince the interlocutor that the idea came from him. People believe more in themselves than others. Use phrases like: "Remember, you said it yourself

.

"" Your words made me think

". Let your interlocutor feel that at least part of what you have proposed is his own ideas.